So how are you doing? and Being?

Isn't that interesting that even though we want to ask people how do they feel we use action-oriented questions? I love paradoxes. and there is no better month to write about what I love than the month of love - February.

Here is what I am thinking about: Paradoxes and Love

I love when someone tells me they have a growth mindset but they realized they actually had a fixed mindset about themselves, I love when a client shares their challenge with another person who is black and white and then I notice that my client wears a black and white stripe shirt – it makes me smile. I love when in the nothing something shows up, I love when I fight working on something and when I surrender I find the answer. I love being noticed and getting attention (for example having my hair colored with some blue), but I also like to hide behind my screen and be in the quiet. And I love it when I post a video on LinkedIn and I think it will be a big hit but no one responds and then I post a video that I think everyone will think is old news and everyone gets excited about it. 

 The definition of the word Paradox is a seemingly absurd or self-contradictory statement or proposition that when investigated or explained may prove to be well-founded or true.

 The biggest paradox that I love it when a new client tells me they don’t move to action because of a certain reason. The paradox is that It is never that reason that stops them from moving into action. Never!

I believe that it all comes to how we frame the problem. An interesting concept to notice is when we have a problem and for some reason, we believe that our solution is the only one that will solve the problem. This is when we get in trouble: we focus on a specific solution that shifts all our energy and attention toward reaching this one solution, which might not even be the right one for us, but we believe it is the only possible way to address the problem – and then we avoid action.

I call it hidden focus – those hidden focuses mislead us to take on wrong actions, or not move into actions at all.

Don’t you love it? maybe you don’t because you feel stuck! But if you learn that this is a tendency you have – you can catch yourself and shift.

Shift + Alt + Delete – don’t you love those three buttons that can help us restart when we get in trouble or stuck? But if you push the all three too early – they can delete everything and get you in trouble.

Absurd, Self-contradicting, just like us – don’t you love it?